Feeling or being unwanted is not a good feeling. I think we all can agree with that.
In fact, feeling unwanted feels terrible and is difficult to deal with.
But remember – when you have this feeling of being unwanted or unloved, there is always a choice:
- To stay there and live with the feeling
- To go your own way and never return
The choice is entirely up to you.
If you choose to walk because you feel unwanted, you have taken the first step towards caring for yourself – and this increases your self-esteem.
But of course this is easier said than done.
Leaving someone, no matter how much you love them, is a difficult thing to do.
When you feel unwanted, it may even be your thoughts that block you from being able to take care of yourself and move you from the place where you are not welcome.
Because it is so uncomfortable to be unwanted that in the situation you freeze or your thoughts run of with you.
So how should you deal with not feeling welcome?
When you feel unwanted and you know you are unwanted, you have the following options:
You can either stay in a state of suffering or you can move towards something warmer.
There is no advantage in staying in a relationship or friendship where you feel unwanted.
We all need to feel a deep human connection, but when you do not get it from the person (s) you want it the most from, it is most worthy to leave – to move yourself.
If you can’t physically move, move mentally.
What you can do in such situation is to choose and value yourself.
Acknowledge your own value in your own self-esteem and believe in all the good you have to offer.
You do not have control over the other person who does not want you.
You cannot control how they choose to give you love, how they choose to communicate with you or interact with you – but you are responsible for how you communicate with them and how you respond to them.
Find your own worth.
It is totally normal for you to feel uneasy and have a lot of thoughts.
Your feelings of unease are completely normal, they are real. Seek peace in the uneasy.
We all have a desire to be appreciated, it is one of the most basic needs of being human.
We long to belong somewhere and that is quite common.
We are all heading towards the heat and away from the cold.
So the healthier you are, the more you look after yourself.
Therefore, practice moving mentally or physically away from places where you are not wanted or welcomed.